Ever notice how the things in life that you don’t have always look the most enticing? It can be anything, but since you don’t have it you can't help but desire it, no matter how nonsensical or ridiculous it may be.
When I was a junior Castle, I remember looking at the snowy winter streets around the homes my relatives resided in and wishing that I could be an Ohio resident come Christmas. I'm sure it would've been a nice shift from the Utopian 80-degree temperatures of Southern California.
I also remember the most exciting meal of the week being whenever my mom decided to pick up some Burger King for dinner, a welcome change from her usual homemade surprises. What I would do just to come home nightly to a home-cooked meal today – you have no idea.
The lush green hills on the other side of the fence haunt us daily.
The point is, is that we always want what we don’t have. We tend to feel complete satisfaction is nonexistent.
This brings about cravings for wanting what we feel we're missing, be it something as minimal as the plate your neighbor ordered at TGI Friday's looking a whole lot more appetizing than your Caesar salad and over-toasted breadstick, to something as extreme as a living situation or a school choice.
I'm sure some of you peeked over the Cal State Fullerton fence at another university and just wanted to jump it and roll around in the grass like a golden retriever on Independence Day.
What about our relationship status? I believe that inside every single person is a secret yearning for the love and companionship a relationship brings, but some yearnings are kept a little deeper in the cellar for some.
Meanwhile, I guarantee that everyone who has been in a long-term relationship has at least once felt locked down in the tedious bond known as commitment – so strongly protected with its extra thick coat of "love" – and viewed the single life as the equivalent of running buck naked in a grand meadow as green as a jungle. You won’t readily admit this, but you know who you are.
Whatever is unavailable will always have that extra gleam of light around it. That's just basic human psychology, as solid a trait in our minds as our unexplainable infatuation for ice cream, puppies and celebrity breakdowns. Perhaps it is attainable but it just requires that little bit of extra work that you’re not quite prepared to commit to.
All green fields have their brown patches, however, and it’s those patches that make the other side seem so green. There are pros and cons to all scenarios. The key is to weigh what your side of the fence is doing for you, and gauge whether your situation brings you more happiness or more strife.
Contemplate if you are where you’re supposed to be, its important to always realistically weigh your options. Ultimately you should do what you feel makes you a happier person. Your own satisfaction is too important to be brushed under the rug of redundancy.
If you do think that other side really will bring you the happiness you so deserve, it's just one fence-jump away. The size of the fence varies; the question is, is it worth the climb?
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